Giving Up On That One, Part 1- LADY BOSSES.

THE WOMAN TREATMENT  

Biologically the human body of a female is different from that of men, we have various stages of being a female starting from being a girl then a teen girl then a lady and finally a Woman. Our grooming to be a Woman starts when we are little girls, we are taught how to sit, talk, eat, dress up and so on, like any other toddler we also have these regular sessions of grooming but something is peculiar about this. 

Sometimes knowingly and sometimes unknowingly we back our peculiar behaviour towards baby girls with science. Let me give you a few things I have heard in the market.

1. Women are arrogant if they are given higher positions at Work:

MY PROPOSITION: 

First: read "Lean In" By Sheryl Sandberg, you will get all the science and the scientific data claiming otherwise.

Here are a few things for you to consider that are mentioned in the book:

 A) THE RELENTLESSLY PLEASANT: Woman needs to combine niceness with insistence, says Mary Sue Coleman (President of the University of Michigan)

B) Journalist Shankar Vedantam catalogued humiliating descriptions of the first female world leaders: 

Margaret Thatcher: Attila the Hen

Golda Meir, Israel's first Female PM: The only Man in the Cabinet

President Richard Nixon called,

Indira Gandhi, India's First Female P.M: The Old Witch

Angela Merkel: The Iron Frau (German Slang for Wife)

B) THE HEIDI/HOWARD STUDY:

The punishment for success, a lady who is successful, decisive, competitive or full of force is often not following the social setups of being the "ideal woman". 

The study was conducted by Harvard Business School, a case study of a real-life entrepreneur named Heidi Roizen. The case described the real-life journey of Heidi, and professors Flynn and Anderson divided the students into a group of two, one group was given the exact same case study of Heidi the other group received the same case but the name was changed to Howard.

Reactions: 

Heidi- selfish, not the type of person one would want to hire, 

Howard- appealing.

This social experiment shows "SUCCESS AND LIKEABILITY ARE POSITIVELY CORRELATED FOR MEN AND NEGATIVELY CORRELATED FOR WOMEN." Ugly sad truth!

Second: Even if a lady is arrogant it's her mechanism of protection, she cannot be vulnerable especially when the emotional quotient is almost zero of the people she is sitting with(let's blame our education system for this).

Third: Well may be because you are arrogant, you think everyone else will turn out to be arrogant too.

Fourth: If she says "NO" she is often termed as the "office obstructionist". So it's really on you to take a "NO" for an answer.

Fifth: Ladies try to be friends with ladies too. That's gonna help you big time. Stop dating your best friends' boyfriend, stop cheating on your lady friends, stop back bitching, stop this and make a move towards appreciating, I have a beautiful best friend she is called Anjali, oh man, jaw-dropping beautiful but... think for a moment that will I ever be able to make her sit with my romantic partner if I have these vulnerabilities that "he would make a move towards her? or she will". Don't date a guy who can give you this thing to think about and make friends who you can trust. I SAY IT VERY OFTEN "Try to be reliant on your bestie, not your hottie!"

Sixth: If something is in your mind, convey it, only conversations can rectify your issues, not your presumptions. 

Seventh: Find another job, itni dikkat hai na apko USS lady boss see? Jao dusri jagah naukri dhund lo!

Love S.