You Should Not Be A Daughter-In-Law

Before The Title Marriage:

People expect you to be good, they hope you to love them, they expect you to stay with them and they expect you to take care of them, they want your attention and still will call you the attention seeker, they will contact you and blame you for things you have not done, they will blame you for every misery they face, they will take you to say that they love you but in many ways, they will kill you with a thousand cuts, no these cuts are not physiological they cannot be seen they are invisible curses you would have to live with- Because You My Baby Is a Lady (Responsible for every damn thing)!

Why do I say that you should not attach yourself to your partner's family?

You love your partner, and they love you back - BUT - you guys have a little issue and - boom -, Lady partner you are responsible!

 COMMON PRESUMPTION:

a) Attention 

b) Love 

c) You do not want peace

d) You want the next person to be your pet 

BLAMED:

Well you should not overreact, dear readers (if I have scored some) think about yourself and think about a situation where you are blamed by your partner (naturally because it's a conflict) but there is a third person who jumps in between (No advice needed) and they start to blame you? and call you an attention seeker?

 THAT'S HOW IT LOOKS:

Confused, emotional and gunned with harsh words!

Very often the figures associated are mother, son and daughter-in-law, we do not think twice before we target ladies, a fight is only normal but someone else takes sides when they absolutely were not asked to help, they ruin the relationship, maybe the fact that a guy is gonna marry another lady is not palatable for some mothers, mothers of ladies on the other hand, from the day their girl child is born knows that they will marry someone, a social construction I hope we melt because baby girl you had enough of this mental torture. 

LOVE AND FORGIVE:

"Arey uski ladai hui this muj see you knew it tb bhi you shouted at him, not done" imagine you are hurt, you can't comprehend a thing in your head, why, what and how it all happened or happening?

You start with a conversation but then emotions take over and you shout, the other person is sad and so are you.... later in the day someone calls you and asks you "why did you fight?" 

Should you be answerable to them? 

Should you shout at them and tell them to mind their own business

Should you ask them why are they bothered? 

Well, you take a better approach thinking that they love you too, and you narrate the experience well in reply "You knew his mood was off then why did you?".

Does it not sound like this "Oh you were molested? What were you wearing?" 

The whole concept of a lady trying to live blame-free or let's say at least they try to take less blames gets dissolved!

IF YOU ASK THE VICTIM, KI ACCUSED KA MOOD KYA THA TOH BETA APKA DIMAG HILA HUA HAI!

Harsh? Yes these are very harsh words but true to its core, no one can deny this fact and if you by chance are, think what if your son was caught up in the same situation. 

RESULT:

A lady starts to suppress her desires, will, beliefs, time and everything. 

CONGRATULATIONS YOU HAVE SUCCESSFULLY CREATED A HUMAN ROBOT- WITH NO AMBITIONS OF HER OWN, A DIRECTIONAL TOOL THAT COULD MINT BABIES!

THE CONFLICT ZONE:

I like to call a two-person verbal argument a "Conflict Zone", Well here again you will be blamed because:

- He loves you more than his mother (WOW)

- He listens to you, my lady, you might have used your sexual skills!

- He is not the wrong person, baby girl "YOU ARE"

A Guy is all you have to care about, he is the centre of your life but let me tell you control yourself because mothers could smell you, they would blame you, obviously, you scored her guy who would give you babies in future!

IF ANYTHING GOES WRONG TRY NOT TO BLAME THE LADY INVOLVED FOR YOUR BRAIN'S SAKE!

1) Never blame a lady if she cheats with your guy because YOU love the guy, not the lady, he is to be blamed (Not in cases where best friends and known people are involved). Its said "Apna sika khota ho toh kisi aur ko kya bole"!

2) Never blame your daughter-In-Law for your son's behaviour, trust your upbringing, no one can brainwash your son and if she is the evil one and somehow manages to brainwash your son, the daughter-in-law will be smart enough to hide it from you!

Now think about all of this drama while you are making a career!

Ladies, you already have to face groping, assaults, restrictions, hormones, public gaze, timings, less pay, unhealthy work spaces, periods, period cramps, CAREER BLOCKAGE, and what not, do you think you would be able to take this mental torture too?

I do not guess I'm sure "NO" you will either break the relationship or you would sacrifice your crucial years to all of these things with another blame game too!

Indeed She Is But You Ignore That Fact!

Rather take a step back, stay cordial, love but not let them take over, and stay away if you must.

LOVE S.